Every year, come Women’s Day and the internet is flooded with articles, videos, infographics, and memes about women from different walks of life. Unfortunately, within 24 hours, it all gets lost in the labyrinth of the internet. We talk about being an evolved society where women have rights and the authority to make decisions for themselves. However, how many women can cross their heart and tell me that they haven’t faced this dilemma at least once in their lives – Career vs. Marriage.
A few days back, while casually surfing the internet, I came across Kareena Kapoor’s new show – ‘What Women Want’. It was heartening to see someone speak about the tough choices that women make every day in their lives. Today, I am going to talk about one such tough choice – Career vs. Marriage.
Career vs. Marriage – What Women Want?
The first thing that I would want to talk about is the term ‘career woman’. What is a career woman? Have you ever heard about a term called ‘career man’? I haven’t. Don’t men have a career and marry too? Then, why are women expected to make the choice?
You study hard to give yourself a good platform and take up your first job. It is the time when you are building the foundation of your life – not just your professional life – and understanding the world as well as yourself. A few years go by and you start hearing your family, friends, well-wishers, etc. talk about your ticking biological clock. Depending on your family, direct or indirect pressure comes from all corners to get married. After all, the twenties is the right time to start a family, isn’t it?
I am not a doctor or a scientist and I am sure that the 20s is the perfect time to start a family. However, my contention is that the 20s is also the time to create a strong foundation for your career, to make choices, experiment, and find the job that you love doing. This is where most women find themselves face to face with the new-age dilemma – career vs. marriage – what should they choose?
I am not going to tell you to choose either. If it were up to me, then I would ask you to take the reins of control of your life in your hands and find a way to get both your career and marriage to work in sync with each other. However, before making up your mind, consider the following aspects.
Aspects to consider before deciding between career and marriage
- There is no secret formula for choosing between the two. However, you must plan your life in a manner that your career and marriage don’t conflict with each other.
- Talk to your future husband and try to understand how he plans to ensure that both your careers remain unaffected after marriage.
- If you are still in the phase of trying different career paths, then maybe it is a good idea to postpone your marriage plans by a few months or years. You cannot have both your legs in two rocking boats. Keep at least one of them steady.
- Marry once you are financially stable- remember, stable NOT rich, because that will take time. You must have enough saved so you don’t depend on anyone for your basic expenses (including your husband).
Remember, don’t turn it into a career vs. marriage fight. Try creating a life which has your career + marriage and a partner who is willing to share the work and the joy of a blissful married life.
Also, if you take a career break for your marriage, then don’t let it break your career.
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